Log Kya Kehenge
At the root, it’s not wrong to question why I wear make up or eyeliner. But judgments (to yourself or others) — now, these hurt.
Preach, Drake, “Sweatpants, hair tied, chillin’ with no makeup on. That’s when you’re the prettiest” All good in theory, but when even iPhone’s facial recognition takes a few tries to recognize me with me no Kajal or make up on… #awkward, amirite? My own phone is judging me hard, toh log Kya Kehenge (what will people say). Log Kya Kehenge? Years ago I came down to Sunday breakfast and my father asked me if I was sick. ‘No, papa, why?’ I asked. “Arre, she just doesn’t have her Kajal on” mom replied. #whatlog#parentskyakehenge Aside from the aesthetic appeal, the South Asian tradition of wearing eyeliner dates back several hundred years. Many Indian women thought eyeliner could be cooling to the eyes and ward off the evil eye. So, because of the tradition and because my own can’t recognize me without Kajal, I fell into the habit of never leaving the house without a bit of make up on. As years passed, I started to question whether I was hiding behind a layer of BB cream and eyeliner or whether I was owning my South Asian heritage and narrative by adorning my eyes with that simple black streak. I came to the honest realization that it was a bit of both. And that’s ok – as long as I owned it and owned my narrative and did not dwell on #logkyakhenge. Because at the root, it’s not wrong to question why I wear make up or eyeliner. But judgments (to yourself or others) — whether I’m hiding behind a layer of makeup or whether my skin is so bad I need a layer of foundation — now, these hurt. They are harsh, abrupt, made in seconds, and without much thought. We all judge, myself included. But I invite you, let’s all try at one moment today, to catch ourselves when we begin to judge (ourselves or others) and turn that into a short reflection instead. Let’s see how that changes the narrative and alleviates the burden of #logkyakahenge